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Change our stories – a quick love note

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When we change our stories we change our lives. When we delve into the raw material of who we were and are, the events and people who made us, and start to see things from the perspective of others involved, we gain empathy. As we gain empathy for those who have hurt us in the past–not excusing their behaviors, rather understanding some of the whys behind them–we can learn to have empathy for our Self. As we gain empathy for our Self we can start to change our patterns and internalized stories and move into a different way of being.
Empathy is one of our weapons against the Shame Beast. Developing empathy and compassion, for our Self and others, loosens the grip of shame and the stories of too much and not enough. Loosening the grip of these stories lets us write the stories – live the stories – we want instead of being driven by fear and shame.
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Stop feeding the Shame Beast (a quick love note)

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It’s time to stop feeding the Shame Beast. You are neither too much or not enough – you are exactly right, as you are right now.

Shake things up and allow the real you to shine through.

You deserve to BE all of you. The world needs to see all of you.

Fight the Shame Beast :: stop hiding yourself and offer the world the gifts only you can offer to change it, to heal it, to make it a better place for us all to live.

xoxo

 

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Owning our stories (a quick note)

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We write our own stories.

Yes, we are given lines and plots by our family, our culture, our lived experience.

And yet, these are only plot turns, they are the points in which we, the main character, the heroine, get to decide how we are going to be. We don’t have control over our genetics or how people treat us or life events like earthquakes or rapes or being burglarized.

We do have control over how we respond to each of these events. Yes, we may have the after effects of trauma or shock living within us. AND we have the choice to heal those pains, to become present again, to engage in our lives instead of allowing our reptile brain to take over.

We have control over whether or not we remain stuck in anger or bitterness or hurt. This is not to say we don’t feel those things, rather we allow them to be fluid, to process and pass through and allow the next emotion to come.

With practice and intention, love and compassion will enter into your heart and being. And you will not remain in this place forever either, because again life will happen. And perhaps when life happens again you will come out of it differently, perhaps the anger or bitterness or hurt will pass more quickly.

Regardless, you have the right to write your own story; you have the privilege to be the person you chose to be; and you have the responsibility to take these rights and privileges seriously, to be present for your one lived life, to write your own story and not let others write it for you.

xoxo

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