We write our own stories.
Yes, we are given lines and plots by our family, our culture, our lived experience.
And yet, these are only plot turns, they are the points in which we, the main character, the heroine, get to decide how we are going to be. We don’t have control over our genetics or how people treat us or life events like earthquakes or rapes or being burglarized.
We do have control over how we respond to each of these events. Yes, we may have the after effects of trauma or shock living within us. AND we have the choice to heal those pains, to become present again, to engage in our lives instead of allowing our reptile brain to take over.
We have control over whether or not we remain stuck in anger or bitterness or hurt. This is not to say we don’t feel those things, rather we allow them to be fluid, to process and pass through and allow the next emotion to come.
With practice and intention, love and compassion will enter into your heart and being. And you will not remain in this place forever either, because again life will happen. And perhaps when life happens again you will come out of it differently, perhaps the anger or bitterness or hurt will pass more quickly.
Regardless, you have the right to write your own story; you have the privilege to be the person you chose to be; and you have the responsibility to take these rights and privileges seriously, to be present for your one lived life, to write your own story and not let others write it for you.
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