The last few weeks have been interesting. An admitted sexual predator took the White House. We have seen blatant attempts at gaslighting by the White House press secretary. Hundreds of thousands of women ACROSS THE GLOBE on ALL seven continents marched for women’s rights. And then all the executive orders that have been flying at us, including a ban on refugees and immigrants from Muslim countries. And during all of this I have been checking in with various feminist spaces, connecting and witnessing and observing.
I have witnessed both curious and beautiful discussion and learning as well as shaming and silencing.
I have watched people give advice or their opinions when it wasn’t asked for.
I have watched boundaries being crossed and consent being disregarded.
I have watched people clam up and/or get defensive and go on attack.
I have watched as some express their valid pain and rage and frustration.
And some of this has been online and some of it in person and some of it between adults and some of it with my children as they work out their own relationship of mutual respect and consent.
And where I’m landing in this moment, is we all have a lot of work to do.
And yes I mean the macro work of calling representatives and getting our hands and minds and bodies busy volunteering and doing the work of resisting and disrupting this new administration at every turn.
And I also mean we all, and I do mean WE ALL and I am most definitely including myself in this, have a lot of inner work still to do too.
We need to look at our own internalized misogyny.
We need to look at all our implicit biases.
We need to examine the ways each of us have silenced or shamed or gaslighted another, whether it was intentional or conscious or not.
We need to build our resilience.
We need to have a deep and clear and embodied understanding of consent and boundaries.
And we need to learn to sit in discomfort and know we’ll all live if we make a mistake or turn out to be in the wrong in some way.
We each have a lot of unlearning and relearning to do.
There are many, many ways to do this learning.
And I find one of the best ways to do this learning and unlearning is in community. With others who are also stumbling and finding their way in the unraveling and exploring and dismantling and dislodging.
In community where we can be witnessed and supported.
In community where we can be lovingly pushed outside our own comfort zones.
In community where we can make mistakes without risk of being shamed or ridiculed.
In community where we can connect with each other and see we are very much not alone.
I believe in the power of the community. It is why most of my work is in the form of circles and groups. There is magic that happens when people come together to dig deep, to find support, to be witness to others. Something greater than the sum of each of the individuals is born. And it is amazing to be a part of and witness to.
I invite you to find your brave communities. The ones where you will be both held and lovingly pushed. The ones where you can sit in discomfort. The ones where you can bear witness to the pain and struggles of others. The ones where “negative emotions” aren’t dismissed or banned. The ones where you can both be you just as you are and also learn to do and be different.
We all need these communities. And sometimes our communities will stumble. These are growing pains and we all come out of isolation and learn to be together again. These are the growing pains of taking off our patriarchal leashes. These are the growing pains of revolution and burning it down and building something new and different and better.
If you would like to join me in community, I have four circles that will be starting in March::
On March 1 Isabel Faith Abbott and I and others will gather together in circle to explore specifically the ideas of consent and boundaries. We will look at trauma and resilience. We will unravel stories and dislodge some of our conditioning of how we are “allowed” to be from our bodies and being. We will heal some of our wounds. And while I can’t tell you how this work will change you or how you will be different at the end of our six months together, I can tell you that shifting and unlearning and dismantling will happen – perhaps in big ways and perhaps in small. You can learn more and register right here: http://gwynnraimondi.com/bodyofconsent
Also on March 1 a group of us will gather to explore our relationships with other women (including our mothers and grandmothers) and how our patriarchal wounding and conditioning has informed and affected these relationships. We will be together for nine months, going deep, looking at intergenerational trauma, healing wounds, and connecting to our strengths. You can learn more and request an application at http://gwynnraimondi.com/unleashingourself
On March 3 my six week in-person women’s circle workshop on self care will begin. We’ll be learning and practicing how to soothe our nervous systems, embody our boundaries, and process and sit in uncomfortable emotions and sensations. It will be on Friday evenings from 7-9pm at Cunning Crow Apothecary in the Greenwood neighborhood of Seattle. If you’d like to learn more and register go to: http://gwynnraimondi.com/rebellionselfcare
And on March 15th we will gather for my six month on-line women’s circle on self care for resistors, disruptors and fire breathers. We will also be learning and practicing how to soothe our nervous systems, embody our boundaries, and process and sit in uncomfortable emotions and sensations. To learn more and register go to http://gwynnraimondi.com/selfcarerevolution
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