So here’s a thing: Standing in our power and setting boundaries doesn’t always have to look Big and Loud. It can. It can look Huge. It can look like screaming from the rooftops. And it doesn’t have to.
Sometimes standing in our power and setting boundaries looks like walking away. Sometimes it looks like not engaging. Sometimes it looks like we are standing just a tiny bit taller and firmer.
Sometimes it is a quiet “No.” Or even a “No, thank you.”
Sometimes it is simply silence, while saying “lalalalalalalalalalala” in your head.
It can certainly look like “FUCK YOU” or “FUCK OFF” also.
All this is true. All this is a valid expression of your power. All of this is a valid expression of your voice. All of this is valid ways to set and stand in your boundaries.
Because sometimes it actually isn’t safe to say FUCK YOU or FUCK OFF. Sometimes doing so could actually cause us harm – physical harm, harm to our income, harm to our children or other family members.
Yes, we absolutely need to speak out against abuse. Yes, we ABSOLUTELY need to speak out against oppression. Yes, we have the right to our voice and to use it whenever we bloody well please.
And sometimes, there are people in the world who will kill you, or bring harm to you in some other way, for you doing so.
This isn’t a reason to be silent and endure.
This IS a reason to be silent and walk (or run) away and find your people. The ones who will stand with you. The ones who will join their voice with yours. The ones who will not let you fight this fight alone. Because this is their fight too.
Because this is OUR fight. Together.
Walking away is another way to say No More.
Keeping yourself alive for another day is a way to quietly and defiantly say Fuck You.
Finding your people and banding together and raising your voices in unison and harmony while building each other up and becoming stronger and stronger is another way to tell the system to Fuck Off.
You do not need to do this alone.
Not any more.
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