So here’s a thing:: Shame disconnects us. from being who we truly are. It has us disconnect from our body, from our spirit. Shame fills our mind with stories about being too much or not enough, stories of unworthiness or undeserving.
Shame wants us disconnected. When we are disconnected we *feel* empty and lost. We *feel* the stories of being too much and not enough. In our bones. It’s almost as if we believe we can’t *feel* any other way.
And it is a feeling. A sensation. It goes way beyond “negative thinking.” These stories live in our body. They are implanted in our muscles and flow with our blood. We feel them as not feeling good or right in our skin; in constantly wanting to fix; in not knowing or defending our own boundaries. We *FEEL* these stories, every single day. They remind of their presence. Constantly.
Here’s another thing: we have a choice. We can try to stuff these stories, to fill that empty sensation or knock it out of being by all kinds of not so good for us actions: eating foods that don’t really nourish us, not getting enough sleep, ignoring the warning cries of our own body and spirit. Stuffing, stuffing, stuffing; literally and figuratively.
Here’s one more thing: It doesn’t have to be that way. We *can* dislodge these stories. We can loosen their grip and even move them on out of our body.
We can connect to who we truly are. Beneath and beyond the stories. We can find and connect to our power, our strength. We can learn to feel comfortable in our skin, in our body. We can re-write our stories of deserving and worthiness. Together.
Because Shame wants you totally disconnected. From yourself and your community. Shame wants you alone.
And one way to fight the Shame beast is to connect to your people. To show up just as you are, and be with others who show up as they are too. Together we can fight the Shame Beasts. You are not in this alone. Not ever. Remind yourself of that.
Reach out to the people you believe are Your People. You will be amazed how if truly are, they will welcome the all of you with open arms. I witness this magic every day in the circles I guide. It is beautiful and gorgeous and there are almost no real words to describe it’s power and magic.
If you are interested in learning more about the circles I gather, I invite you to sign up for my weekly love letter to learn when the next one will be forming. http://gwynnraimondi.com/newsletter xoxo