(The following was a daily discussion prompt I offered in the Awakening Our Womanline circle earlier this year. It felt important to share with all of you too. xoxo)
Our mothers… we know in our heads we cannot change them. They are the women they are, the women they were made to be, the women they in some ways choose to be. They show love in their own ways and that is (or was) often so deeply hurtful.
It hurts because we are part of them and they are part of us. We were created and grew within them. We were warm and nurtured in their womb and our relationship with them is bound in blood and bone and tissue. We desperately want them to love us and accept us. To allow us to be.
And we cannot change them.
We can grieve. We can allow our tears, our wails, our cries of pain to bubble up. We can hold our daughters and nieces tightly and loosely and we can work on our own stories of how they and we aren’t enough or are too much.
We can heal ourselves and the next generation and while we do this work we also will heal our mothers, creating a world they couldn’t have and perhaps only dreamed about.
Today, dig deep into your grief. Your grief of what you never had. Of what you lost. Of what you so desperately wanted for yourself. Allow the tears to fall and your own healing to begin.
And know I am wrapping you in a blanket of love and acceptance as you do.
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