September 1, 2020 through February 28, 2021
Weekly emails with information, essays, exercises, & homework
Twelve 90-minute group calls
PDF booklet of all materials (to be distributed at the end of our program)
All humans welcome
Sliding scale pricing based on US Dollars
Option 1 :: $180/month for six months for those who can pay extra to allow me to offer lower rates
Option 2 :: $135/month for six months recommended price
Option 3 :: $90/month for six months for those needing partial funding (limited space available at this option)
Option 4 :: $63/month for six months for those in need of extra crisis funding (limited space available at this option)
Note: By registering for this program you agree to the Office Policy and Client Service Agreement terms and conditions.
Our relationships and our ability to relate with others, ourselves, and our world, are impacted by the trauma that lives within us. This includes (but isn’t limited to) childhood trauma, relational trauma, inter-generational trauma, ancestral trauma, and collective relational trauma. The world we live in is changing rapidly, however in order for there to be lasting change, for us to grow a new society and way of being, we each need to learn how to tolerate uncomfortable feelings – emotions and their physiological sensations – that arise during difficult conversations. We need to learn how to set boundaries for ourselves and how to respect boundaries of others. We need to learn how to self-regulate and co-regulate.
We need to learn the difference between an old trauma being activated and when we are actually in physical danger in the present moment. We need to learn how to expand our “windows of tolerance” so that we can thoughtfully respond to challenging situations instead of automatically reacting to activating stimuli.
This all asks us to be in our bodies. To actually feel the emotions and their physiological sensations. To be present. To listen without agenda and to speak our truth without blame. To intimately connect – to our bodies, our minds, to others, to our world.
We need to learn how to actually relate with each other in ways that do not perpetuate abuse and trauma and that are not complicit with the harmful patterns and cycles that were passed down to us and are still encouraged by the dominant culture.
Trauma Informed Embodiment (TIE)™ for Relationship is one way to learn how to move into these new ways of being.
TIE™ for Relationship is a six month group program that is part support group, part practical tools utilizing the Trauma Informed Embodiment (TIE)™ approach, and part psycho-education. It is open all humans, as all of us have trauma living within us and live in a world that has traumatic impacts on us.
The program begins September 1. There will be bi-weekly-ish (every other week) group video calls (via Zoom) and weekly emails. Because I want this program to be able to reach as many people as possible, I offer a sliding scale fee based on your annual household income (no need to prove to me what your income is, I trust folks to choose the price point that is right for you and your family).
During our six months together we will explore our how our personal traumatic experiences impact the ways we relate with others and our Self, examine how the dominant culture exacerbates our trauma and actually traumatizes us by filling our minds and bodies with fear, and how current events impact us and activate our trauma responses. We will also learn simple, practical ways to regulate our nervous systems and gentle ways to come back into our bodies, connect to our boundaries, and find our own ways to center and ground.
We heal trauma in relationship, by relating with others. However the trauma that lives within us can and often does have devastating impacts on our relationships and the ways we relate with others – from our most intimate partnerships and friendships, to our relationships with our children and parents, to our relationships with others who differ from us in some way. With this in mind, we need to remember that as a part of our personal trauma processing journey we need to learn how to regulate our nervous systems, how to connect to our physiological boundaries and reclaim our bodies as our own, find our own ways to center and ground, and acknowledge, embrace, and grow our internal and external resources. This work allows us to be more intentional, mindful, and compassionate in our own lives and in the world, to focus our rage and pain in appropriate and helpful ways, instead of damaging and harmful (to ourselves & our relationships), and move from isolation to connection and intimacy as a way of being within ourselves and in the world.
In order for us to create a world where we are able to be respectful of others, their humanity, and their autonomy we need to be able to remain calm in challenging situations, to speak our truth without malice, to have compassion for ourselves and others who have had similar experiences and come together in true community, we need to have practical tools to calm our systems and the true understanding that we are not alone.
Trauma Informed Embodiment (TIE)™ for Relationship is a place to begin or continue your work of embodiment, exploring the ways trauma impacts you and your life, and learning ways to be in right relationship with your Self and others.
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist associate in the state of Washington in the United States. The focus of my work and practice is trauma (specifically complex, inter-generational, and collective relational traumas), grief, embodiment and their intersections and how these all impacts our ways of relating with ourselves, with others, and with our world. I deeply believe in the power of community. Because of this, some of my work is offered in group format.
I believe in tearing down the status quo and dismantling our oppressive culture and that this is both an internal and external process.
My training in family systems during graduate school and in universal systems (micro and macro) in undergraduate school (Bachelor of Science in Physics; Masters of Arts in Clinical Psychology), instilled deep within me the understanding of how, while we are all unique individuals, we are also part of, contributors to, and victims of our current oppressive and patriarchal culture.
What this means, is in my work I help shed light on the interconnections and intersections of our own lived experience, how the experiences of our ancestors have been passed down to us, and how the culture we live in impacts who and how we are in the world.
To learn more about me and my work, you can go here.
If you would like to connect with me for a free 30-minute chat to see if this group is right for you, please fill out the form on this page and we’ll get something set up.
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