September 1, 2017 through February 28, 2018
Six months of unlearning and dislodging authoritarian culture from our bodies and being
Love letters,body-centered mindfulness & creativity exercises, stream of conscious writing prompts and videos arriving in your inbox once a week
Twelve live group calls on Zoom
$79/month for six months or a one time payment of $474 (USD) (Partial scholarships available. To request a partial scholarship, please email me directly at gwynn at gwynnraimondi dot com)
I grew up, as most of us did, in a time where children are to be seen and not heard; where we are to obey adult authority without question or push back, where girls most especially are to bite their tongues and smile and nod when disagreeing with another person (particularly a male person or elder).
I also had role models in my parents who, sometimes, encouraged the questioning of authority, the speaking up, the being of my own person. This was only sometimes however, and absolutely didn’t apply when it was them I was speaking up to or questioning or defying in any way.
So, I internalized the message to be a Good Girl. To be a rule follower. To play the part, whatever that part was at any given time.
I also learned, in quiet corners and coffee shops and alleyways, to speak up. To criticize authority. To see the fault in mindlessly following rules. I learned to find myself in my own skin, my own voice, my own thinking. And this finding of me was done away from my family, away from any real form of authority. Which then allowed me to learn to question all authority, even when it scared me, even when it felt risky in some way. It allowed me the space to then come back to those I was “supposed” to obey without question, and to start questioning.
I learned when it was safe to “break the rules” and when it was detrimental to. I learned how to be a chameleon: being a rebel in these spaces and a Good Girl in those spaces and being keenly adept at knowing which part of me was welcome where. The older I have become, and with lots of my own inner work, I have been able to shed more and more of the Good Girl and to allow the defiant and resistant and rebellious Self that is me to come through. I question authority more than ever and even though at times I still shake or the butterflies still appear, I also know that I am my own autonomous person and if something isn’t right for me, I don’t need to do it.
Now, as a mother, I am in that space of wanting to raise children in a way that allows them to question and defy while also having them get their damn shoes on when they are asked so we can get out the door on time. I am seeing more and more how my own conditioning and training has both already been unraveled and dislodged and also all the work I still have to do.
We live in a culture that tries to tell us at every turn how to be and do in this world. We are told we need to ask permission to even exist. We are given a never-ending list of rules, many of them contradictory, to follow in order to be accepted or acceptable, to be loved or lovable. We are told that others with degrees and letters behind their names know our own bodies and selves better than we do. We to told over and over and over to obey, obey, obey. Or else.
And while there are certainly times when our lives can be in danger, and times when it may be paramount to our own physical safety to listen to authority, those times are typically rare in our daily lives.
So, for six months I will be locking arms and joining hearts and minds with Isabel, and together we will be facilitating a circle to unearth, unravel, dismantle, and dislodge these stories that live within, the ideas that others know better than us for our own lives, the thought that we must always follow the rules and be Good Girls. We will learn about embodying our own defiance and resistance in response to hearing and honoring our own knowing. We will embrace being our own authorities of our own lives.
I would be over the moon if you choose to join us.
In rebellious solidarity, always,
Gwynn is a licensed marriage and family therapist associate in the state of Washington in the US. Her primary focus in her practice is trauma (personal lived experience, complex/chronic and acute; cultural; and ancestral/intergenerational). She offers online and in person groups and retreats as well as “remote” individual therapy. She deeply believes in the connections and intersections of the personal and political, the social and self, the individual and collective and spends most of her time unraveling for herself and others the cultural conditioning we have all received through writing, therapy and coaching work, and community activism. You can learn more about Gwynn and her work at http://gwynnraimondi.com/about .
ISABEL’S IMAGE AND BIO